i realize A LOT gay people(or lesbians) have long steady stable relationships. a lot of straight people has crazy somewhat unpredictable relationships and most of the time it doesnt even last long. why is that?Why does gay relationships last way longer then straight relationships?
Just a guess from a straight female, I would think that it is because people in gay relationships are automatically united in the fight for gay rights. This unity automatically brings a level of a bond between the two parties in a gay relationship. People in a heterosexual relationship do not have this type of force to put them on the same page from the door.Why does gay relationships last way longer then straight relationships?
I would say because their is alot more open options in the straight world then gay one... Also as you get older gays don't have to often worry about children and when they do they are positive of it... Where as straight people the relationship crumbles around children, just watch the movie Marley and Me and watch how their family changes...
Also I would think that some gay people that don't know many other people to be with stick to a relationship and work on it because they don't know anyone else, as well as their wouldn't be any other competition for affection?
Hmmm I do not have enough experience in either of those types of relationships to confirm what you are saying, but I will take your word on it. If I had to make an educated guess as to why homosexual couples last longer than heterosexual ones, I would probably have to say that it has something to do with the ';outsider'; mentality. Now PLEASE do not take this the wrong way, because I promise in no way shape or form am I anti-gay...in fact I am a part of a club at my school that supports equal rights for all sexual preferences :))) What I mean by outsider mentality, is that when a certain person is outcast because of the way they act, then that person finds other people going through the same thing and they stick together no matter what, because they are all they have. A better way to illustrate this would be like how in most high schools the band kids are seen as ';weird,'; which is a sad but true fact at my school :( Therefore, all of these kids who were cast out from the ';normal'; people came together to form an extra special and unbreakable bond because they know that the people they are surrounded by now not only like them, but they like them for who they REALLY are. This same principle can be applied to homosexual people by comparing them to the band kids and the so called ';normal'; people (aka people that are afraid of those who are different) are representative of society. People sometimes outcast homosexuals because they do not understand their lifestyle, when it is really none of their business in the first place. Therefore, that makes the gay community much STRONGER, and far more UNIFIED, that most straight people since they have not had to go through the struggle of being discriminated against. Also, I think that gay people have had to go through so much hatred to be able to be with a partner of their own sex, that they are far less willing to give it up as easily as straight people. :)))
Usually straight relationships that fell apart, did because of ';gender typical'; issues. There is less of a difference between the way two guys or two girls think then the way a guy and a girl think. We're on a more similar wavelength with each other usually. Sure, it's stereotypical, but it's still true. We haven't evolved THAT much.
Take a look at the divorce rates in The Netherlands over the last 18 years since they legalized civil unions for gays. It's dropped.
I think you may be looking at the wrong straight people!
I've been married for nearly 40 years and we dated for three years prior. So how does that relate your your scenario?
My parents just celebrated 60 years. How does that relate to your scenario?
My daughter will have been married for 10 years this coming July. How does that relate to your scenario?
Please do not generalize. A lot of gay people don't stay in relationships either. A lot do.
I think it might be that because there are a much smaller number of gay people than straight people, so right off the bat it's harder to find somebody, which may make us treasure our relationships more. Also, most of us can easily relate to each other due to similar experiences with coming out, discrimination, etc.
Meh, that's just my take on it d:
usually because the same gender means the same influences or the same problems, its usually what I've seen is that its because they're more connected because of the same gender.
The opposite genders dont have much of an idea and dont understand the otehr gender so much and may even be offensive without realizing it. Its just a matter of genders understanding their own gender
lesbians mate for life, it drives me crazy. Gay men, not so much, not that I have found anyway. But lesbians, absolutely. Men are pigs, bottomline really.
You can't generalize.
Having a long term relationship doesn't depend on whether you're heterosexual or GLBT.
Good luck.
;-)
thats not true. my cousin is 23 and a lesbian. every time i see her she has a different woman on her arms. and she is still dealing with 2 of her exes from the past, plus the new gal. talk about a player.
Gay and lesbian people have a better chance of seeing the spiritual and emotional parts of the relationship, then comes the other things.....%26gt;.%26gt;
^_^
My life is a living testament to the opposite. I have only had two serious relationships, and they both died (one literally) in just under two years.
we have a better understanding of what love is because we have to fight harder for ours.
just a shot in the dark though. :] haha
Er - do you have statistical evidence to support that sweeping assertion?
Is that really your picture? It's very sweet.
we got more in common!!!!!!!!! and are more mature and love each other uncoditionally.... we're open minded plp since we are gay so i guess we don't fight a lot...
still looking for a bf!!!!!!!!!!!!
I haven't noticed that among my friends or family.
I think It's because we're more emotional. All of my relationships have lastest for years
In all relationships ,we don't know how to get through the hard times.We weren't taught anything.
i dont believe that i have alot of gay friends and i can make it longer then them whores
some people may not like what they find out.
I ain't so .
whos that in the picture!?
you guys are hot
I beg to differ...I think its the exact opposite.
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