How many relationships do work after cheating has taken place?

My bf of 3 years is cheating on me and I am about to bust him! However, I love him so much that I am afraid I may want to give him a second chance after all; however, I wonder how many relationships do work after cheating has taken place? Does it really work after that? How do you trust them again? What should I do to the ***** once I catch them?How many relationships do work after cheating has taken place?
Hey hows it going... not sure how long ago you posted this but I'm going through something very similiar rite now but I'm on the other side, and am looking for answers to fix things. Me and my girlfreind have been dateing for three years also and two years ago we were going through a rough patch and we were both unsure what we wanted she was still meeting her ex once a month for lunch and I was unsure of what was going on between them an confronted her about it with no changeing the issue in sight, she had also just been hit on by a way older guy and didn't tell me about it until I found out, and I was unsure if this is what I wanted, to be in a year long relationship just getting into college and moving out on my own etc.. It left me confused an unsure what I wanted an one night at a party a week or so later, I was drunk an was getting hit on by a girl who I later that night ended up to hook up ( just makeing out) after it was over I sat there confused and disbelived at what I had just done, it felt good yes to feel wanted again but I was also hurt, two days later I ended up to hook up with her again an it went a little farther but when the subject of sex came up it was like I was hit by a bolt of lighting there in my bed. What the hell am I doing I love my girlfriend, why am I resulting to this, I turned to the girl an told her ';look this needs to stop, we cant have sex etc.'; and she left and I havnt talked to her since. I was ashamed with myself and disgustied I knew from that moment on my girlfriend was the girl who I wanted to spend my life... and I buried the affair I had and never did it again and the issues of the rough patch eventually fizzeled away ( except for her an her ex meeting up for lunch a few times). just 2 weeks ago my girlfriend found out about me cheating on her, and we broke up because of it... and I'll tell you I have never done so much life changing things in two weeks ever in my life. I've been meditating and praying for forgivness everywhere I go. I know now that I should have told her about the fling I had and everything but I was scared to loose her when I had just found her. My point is You'll never really know if he is changed No one can read minds. but from my experience change in people is possible. I know that I have never done what I did since I did it and if me and my gf get back together I dont even think I could look at another girl, because I know I love her so so much. make sure he is sincere and I meen really sincere if you still love him then I believe there is hope its like the beatles said '; all you need is love'; and I truly believe that. as for the trust it will take a while I still have know idea how to get it back... but with time I believe it will come. '; to err is human, to forgive Divine'; I dont want to forget about what happen with me it has taught me something so valuable, and I dont want my gf to forget either it is something that has changed our relationship but yes I do want some type of closure to the issue and a clear path forward it will be a struggle I know and it will be tough an it may last a week or years who knows but you don't unless you try, I feel and the second time round may be way better. But in the end don't worry about it if it's meent to be it's meent to be Love will find way, it has for 1,000's of years. Best of luck to you... and remember theres billions of people in this world and someone else out there is dealing with the same stuff as you no one is ever totally alone.How many relationships do work after cheating has taken place?
Leave him. Do you really want to have to forgive him over and over again?
trust me, its not really worth it to forgive a cheater unless :





1. ur married with a kid/kids


2. this is the first affair/cheating


3. he is remorseful


4. u loved him enough to forgive


5. u and him are willing to work hard to rebuild trust


6. u are willing not to bring up the issue again
IT depends on if you can get past the thrust issue in the relationship if it will work. Most woman are more forgiving than men are.





Only you know for sure how this has made you feel and you need to know that once they cheat they will more likely do it again. because if you stay than they feel you are accepting of this and will forgive them again for their actions. Do you see what I mean?





Best of Luck to you