Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Why Are open relationships ok in gay society?

I am new to gay scene.I was taken aback when the person i am going out with said that in gay society its acceptable to have sex with person outside the relationship.





Afterwards i met many couples like this.I am shocked.








I did not like this as i want to have someone who is only with me.





Please tell me if this is true and where can i find my type of relationships?Why Are open relationships ok in gay society?
If you were my boyfriend that would be it - just me an you!Why Are open relationships ok in gay society?
You were talking to whores. Open relationships are not okay to all homo people (neither the converse too all heteros).


You could say it's more acceptable because if you look at it logistically, dating enough homosexual people to compare with the amount of dating that goes on between heteros is really hard, if for nother else, because the homo population is so much smaller.





Sadly, as to not just sleep around and be just as happy you have to find that right person... just like any other people homo or hetero.
ok, we've heard from the monogamy only crowd, now from someone who has had open relationships.





There are many reasons for this, from immaturity to vastly different sex drives between partners. I've also seen otherwise perfect couples outside of the bedroom that did not match in it. It becomes a bit difficult when you fall in love before having sex, then find out you're both tops.


For me, I fell madly in love with someone who I couldn't keep up with in the bedroom. We are otherwise the perfect couple, complimenting each other in so many other ways. I'd rather let him do so with me knowing instead of finding out from someone else. I can handle him doing this more than I could handle him going behind my back.


Is it perfect? No. Is it right for anyone else? Maybe, maybe not. Is it right for me? For now, it is. As we grow in our relationship I might put it to an end.


You can find a monogamous relationship where ever you are, as long as you know that is what you are looking for. It's not a society or cultural thing, it's personal choice.





All I can say is find your own happiness and hold it close. If it doesn't make you happy, let it go.
Just from my experience, but I've found that a lot of gays/bisexuals/lesbians don't want to be held back in that way. And in fact, lots of straight people feel that way as well, but they don't talk about it like we tend to in the queer community. By having open relationships, there's a bigger chance that the partners will be happier and a much smaller chance that one or both of the partners will ';cheat.'; That's a big problem in a lot of straight relationships that open relationships, no matter what the genders of the partners, don't have.
It is NOT the sexual orientation of a person that determines whether one is in a monogamous relationship or an 'open' relationship...it is the 'individual' person themselves. You may have erred in not asking your 'friend' prior to establishing the relationship whether they intended to be faithful to you or if they were going to 'play the field'... Personally, I couldn't agree with you more...I am TOTALLY for a committed, monogamous relationship...and, that is what I am in...
This is why many heterosexuals don't condone this lifestyle. I know heteros cheat too, but they know they are expected NOT to cheat, yet in the homo lifestlye it's expected that you do cheat. I think that is gross. It also lends credence to the HIV epidemic in the gay community. I think if gays want to be married and looked at as members of society, they need to start acting like members of society and not rabid a$$ rabbits
Open relationships are accepted in both gay and straight society by select people. I have never personally known a gay or straight couple that had an open relationship. And I would never accept one for myself or my partner, but I feel that any consenting adult that wants that arrangement should feel free to have it.











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I am bi sexual and i am strictly monogamous too.... I know several same sex couples who don't have an open relationship and i know straight couples who do have an open relationship...





I think perhaps it's just spoken about a little more in the gay community.
Not in my gay scene. I'm way too possessive to share my bf and he knows it. It's all up to the individual at the end of the day, I know plenty of straight couples who have open relationships and other gay couples like myself - though not to the same xtreme so I'm told.
you can find it rite here buddy!!! lmao!


Seriously not all gay relationship are like that. Well not the ones that i have been in anyway i think a relationship is sacred and if ur in a so called ';open relationship'; your not his bf ur his F**K buddy.
Not in my gay society. I believe in monogamy for me and my partner. Others are free to do as they wish. I will not judge or impose my restrictions on others.


But i don't have any LBGT close friends who have open relationships.
i dont think all relationships are like that...





i know several couples that are monogamous and several that have open relationships... you just have to be honest about what you want in the beginning
i dont think that is true, i have quite a few gay friends and know a gay couple who have been exclusive for over 5yrs, you will find some one who feels the same way, don't worry you jst need to find the right person for you.
There are open relationships in both homosexual and heterosexual relationships.





I am a lesbian, and am strictly monogamous. It all depends on the individuals involved.
If i ever meet another man, i want a relationship without any rucking around, if you love your partner then its not on to have sex with others.
f**k that **** i'm a one man sorta guy putting it about never has appealed to me yes there r people like that (each to their own) don't mean you have to be like that... you keep it real
It happens in both gay and straight society. Don't worry, there are plenty o' people who won't want an open relationship.
what? huh? i didnt know this neither does my girlfriend not that shed let me anyway...not that id want her too no i want a girl or guy thats just with me
ANY HOLES A GOAL



that's like asking, why is orgies ok in porn.
cuz' they're the same so the others dont get jelous

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